INTERVIEW WITH MISTRESS BRANDI RYDER

It happened with my very first sexual partner, who was a few years older than I was. He bought me a toy ... I cannot remember if it was a dildo or a vibrator, but it doesn't matter.
We began using it in vanilla ways at first, but it didn't take me very long to live out my fantasy with it. I straddled his face and made him suck on it. He wasn't as willing as I thought he should be, so I told him if he did a really good job I would reward him. He got the picture and started giving that toy a suck off from hell.
The best part was what happened after! We'd be going out somewhere and he would want to do something boring with his lame beer drinking and belching jock friends, and I would gently remind him of how excited they would be to learn what good suction he has. I got to go wherever I wanted for the rest of our relationship ... not to mention the gifts! We're still friends and I still remind him of his sucking skills to this day.
I continued exploring my dominant side with this partner until later on in life I received my formal training.

Started dominant, but I have explored the submissive role. It's exciting, but not me and not natural. I did learn a lot during a period of time where I explored the other side of the whip with a trusted friend. Though I never submitted to him (much to his dismay ... *laughing*), I did experience many of the pleasures of the submissives. I feel that added to my empathy and understanding of my subs in a way that could not have been gained any other way.

I got started the day I was born! I have always been strong willed. My father even called me Little Hitler for a while! My training came naturally to me. I grew up around horses, and eventually became a horse trainer. Combine that with my own imagination and drives, it was very natural for me to apply disciplinary tactics with the people I dated.

I can't say that there was one specific experience that prompted me. I just knew.